We all want to love and be loved. It’s natural. When you are young, you think about finding a partner and ‘falling in love’. But, yet, they say over 50% of marriages fail. Why? Well, there are lots of reasons but here’s an important one; we can’t distinguish between love and lust. We’ve been brainwashed to believe they are the same thing.
When you are first attracted to a person, especially when you are young, it is always lust. Here’s what you need to understand, lust is a biochemical function. It is physical. It is natural. We have the urge to procreate. Unfortunately, that biochemical function wears off. Or, more accurately, its power is dulled. The same stimulus elicits less response. Lust is a function of time.
While the biochemical reaction is taking place, there is another process that needs to develop. That process is love. Love is not biochemical. Love is electromagnetic! That is an extremely important distinction. Lust is temporal, love is not. In fact, if you understand the timelessness of love, you will find that it often grows stronger over time. Its field strength increases.
That doesn’t necessarily mean lust need disappear. But if you understand the difference, both can be cultivated and remain present in your life.
